If girls can find love in books, so can guys… but in a different kind of book.
“My blood runs cold, my memory has just been sold. My angel is the centrefold, angel is the centrefold.”
Ever since magazines like Playboy were introduced, featuring scantily clad women – or completely naked women – men have created their ideal woman based on these centrefold models. Playboy‘s statistics show that of those who buy Playboy magazine, approximately 40 per cent are married and roughly a quarter of those who buy it are just above the age of 18.
Sounds impressive, right? In fact, the highest selling copy of Playboy in November 1972 sold over seven million copies around the world.
However, some of the women featured in these magazines have very unattainable looks and traits that could potentially give men too high standards.
Just as she commented saying girls can have high expectations for men from characters in books, counselling psychologist and senior lecturer Dr Helen McGrath from Deakin University, compared that kind of book boyfriend mindset to that of a man building up high expectations of women from starlets in movies and centrefold models.
“It’s a bit like a young man thinking that the girlfriends need to look like all the girls who are models or who are in porn magazines, but of course they don’t,” she told The Newsroom. “Some men believe that women should be like this therefore they often find themselves unable to form a relationship with people because they have this realistic expectation.”
It’s not just the pretty girls in magazines that have men looking for a perfect woman; actresses in movies and other kinds of celebrities also have that effect on men… or at least the characters they play.
“All they see is actresses in movies and they think the characters they’re playing are the kind of girlfriends they’d like to have. But again, the characters are not real,” she said. “They’re not fully rounded people. They’re there as a plot device as much as anything else to tell a story in most cases.”
Matthew Winter, an 18-year-old university student, told The Newsroom that lead singer of Paramore, Hayley Williams, exhibits personal traits that he likes and has the look that he wants.
“She embodies a rock vibe that I look for in a girl, a laid back personality while still hardworking, as well as having a positive view on the world and its issues,” he said. “It’s not as much her look as it is her countenance.”
Mr Winter has been in a relationship with the same girl for approximately the past two years and says that she exhibits the same personality traits and has a similar outlook as Hayley.
“I think I just knew what I wanted and she [his girlfriend] embodies that,” he said.
When asked whether or not his admiration for Hayley Williams affects his real life relationship, Mr Winter vehemently denied it.
“She’s just a celebrity crush,” he said. “That’s all.” – Noah La’ulu
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