Rings, bills and a lifelong commitment?
Not your cup of tea? Then why are the people of Gen Y in such a rush to head down the aisle?
“He’s taking me engagement ring shopping, Mel,” my long-term gal pal said to me in utter excitement. I tried to keep my half-chewed raspberry and white-choc muffin in my mouth. What?! My 19-year-old best friend was going to get engaged? I couldn’t even make a long-term commitment to Vodafone and she was going to go out and get hitched?
When she looked at me, expectedly awaiting an eager squeal of some sort, I wondered… Why is this generation in such a hurry?
So, from what I know, people “back in the day” used to get married when they were 15 but they only lived till they were 45 max. According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare the average lifespan for men in Australia is 79 years and women in about 84 years. This raises the question: Why on earth are people still in their teens ready to get married when they have a good 65 years left of life?
That’s 65 years of waking up to the same face everyday. Don’t you want to go to Paris first? Climb the Eiffel Tower and eat a croissant wearing a black beret and batting your eyelashes at the hot man sitting opposite you in a cute cafe? I do.
With one in two marriages ending in divorce, it seems that the institution of marriage has a shelf-life. My mother married at 19 and it didn’t work out. Knowing that makes me want to experience a whole world that doesn’t involve settling into a permanent, life-altering decision like binding myself to another human for the rest of my life.
When influential star-couples like Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth, Jamie-Lynn Spears and Jamie Watson, Zayn Malik and Perrie Edwards, showcase their love for each other by putting a ring on it, it’s easy to assume that is the reason youngsters like us are ready to get hitched.
Carrie Bradshaw said it best: “Enjoy yourself! That’s what your 20s are for! Your 30s are to learn the lessons and your 40s are to pay for the drinks.” Life lesson learnt, I think. – Melissa Henricks
Photo from oddstuffmagazine.com.