Valentine’s Day from a male’s perspective.
This day is daunting for guys who have never had a girlfriend in the month of February, but a walk in the park for seasoned veterans.
Although I’d like to think I’m Mr Perfect, I am single, so I approach this day a little differently to those guys in a relationship, in that I don’t really give it a second thought. And this can also be the problem for guys in a relationship – most males take a laid-back and passive approach to this day, leading to a pissed off girlfriend. However, for all of us, deep down there’s pressure on the gender to smack this one out of the ball park. This can be an opportunity to possibly smother that special girl with gifts, have dinner and drinks, smash a box of chocolates and “watch a movie”. Which all sounds pretty good, it’s just the lead up and the planning that annoys us – it’s a love/hate relationship.
However, the truth of the matter is that if you have done your job right as a boyfriend for the other 364 days of the year, then Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be such a big deal. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put any effort in.
Be prepared, it’s not just the Scout motto, but the approach that should be taken in order to successfully conquer this Hallmark holiday.
That doesn’t necessarily mean planning months in advance (unless you wanna blow her away), but give yourself at least a week.
Flowers are pretty much status quo on February 14, and if you grabbed them from the grocery store while picking out what’s left from the card aisle on your way to see the missus, she’s going to know, and the rest of the evening is going to be an uphill battle (even if she pulled the “I just want to spend time with you” line).
Buying for a girl can be hard. but it’s as simple as this: buy something she wants, not something she needs. This can be jewellery, clothes, or anything else she likes. Avoiding cliches can be hard but it pays dividends.
Just remember February 14 is just a date, like any other. If you have a special person, then celebrate it. If not, don’t worry about it, unless there is someone you think about in your downtime because this could be your chance to make a move. Tell her how you feel, buy her a rose or go all out.
It may feel like this if it doesn’t go the way you hope.
But it’ll pass, as too will February 14. –Luke Mahoney
Top Image screen shot from The Simpsons